What about dating sites?

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Last week the most-viewed post asked the question: who is my Miss/Mr Right? Maybe the next logical step is to ask where to find them, and a natural place in 21st century London is: on the internet!

There are adverts for dating sites everywhere – nowhere more obvious than on Facebook of all places, which is meant to tailor adverts to me…apparently telling them I’m married doesn’t stop that. The only reason I ever joined a dating site was because I was offered 50p cashback. I got my 50p, but I didn’t get even one person expressing an interest in me! I like to think that was because I didn’t put up a photo or any information about myself at all, but it would have been nice…

Anyway, I just thought I’d throw this out there – it would be good to know what you think!

Advantages of dating sites

  • It’s being honest; everyone on the site is saying ‘I’d like a boyfriend/girlfriend’ – that takes the whole ‘Does she think this is a date?’ thought out of your mind!
  • The dating sites are cleverly designed, and want the same thing that you do so their statistics look better
  • Dating via a dating site gets you married quicker than meeting in person (like, within an average of 18 months rather than an average of four years)

Disadvantages of dating sites

  • People lie (noooooo!); apparently 81% of people lie about basic stuff like height, weight or age
  • Dating sites encourage adultery; that person you fancy might be married (remember that Ashley Madison campaign ‘Life is short. Have an Affair’?
  • Having picked a date with one person out of a seemingly endless pool of potential matches makes it easier to be dissatisfied

 

Becoming me

Last week I was surprised to be contacted by a guy who was basically my best friend when I was 10. In a surprise twist, it wasn’t through Facebook!

Anyway, I moved house when I was 11 but he didn’t, so he stayed in touch with the people I went to school with, and when I found him on Facebook I was abl

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e to dig through his friends and see a whole bunch of my old friendship group – great news!

What’s really interesting is that I can look at all their pictures and I see two people: them now, but mostly them as a 10 year-old. And, of course, they probably do the same when they look at me. The thing is, I don’t think I’d get on very well with my 10 year-old self – he was a bit of an idiot to be honest.

It sort of struck me that I never stopped being me, it’s just that ‘me’ changed over the last couple of decades.

But God doesn’t change. As I get older, I’ll change my hairstyle and my attitude, but God doesn’t change a single thing. That’s good news by the way.