I judge myself

English: A homeless man in Paris Français : Un...

English: A homeless man in Paris Français : Un sans domicile fixe à Paris. Tiếng Việt: Một người đàn ông vô gia cư ở Paris Polski: Bezdomny mężczyzna w Paryżu See below for more translations. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’ve recently started a new job, which has led to me thinking back over the past jobs I’ve started. In comparison this new job is one which I would historically have looked at as one which I’d have liked to have, but which is generally worked by people I dislike…what I mean is that people in my job dress in suits, act busy, travel around the world as if they’re popping to the shop, have lots of meetings in tall buildings, and generally just act as if they’re more important than everyone else.

What I’ve realised is that my pre-judging of people in this job hasn’t changed despite the fact I work with them every day, and they’re all perfectly normal! I find myself disliking the concept of them (us?), which is weird, and completely nonsensical.

What it’s highlighted to me is that I find it very easy to put people into boxes:

  • high earners = arrogant
  • students = lazy
  • shop workers = no ambition
  • estate agents = incompetent

Just to clarify, these are examples of what I could think, not necessarily what I do think. But the point still stands; I put a stay-at-home mum in a different box to a homeless person despite the fact that their different circumstances may have no bearing whatsoever on who they are. Am I making sense? I’m very tired.

The real point is this: surely we are all bearers of the image of God, and that should be the ‘box’ into which I put people?

The grass is always greener

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Have you ever thought that computer programming is similar to life? No? Oh, right.

Well, anyway: one of the most basic computer programming concepts is the IF-THEN statement. IF [I click the ‘Start’ picture] THEN [open the menu]. And I think that we all do this with life as well, just in a slightly different way:

IF [I got married] THEN [I’d be happy]
IF [I get the new iPad] THEN [I’ll feel fulfilled]
IF [we get pregnant] THEN [I’ll know God loves me]
IF [I earned more] THEN [I’d give more to the church]

That old phrase ‘the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’ is so true, isn’t it? I’m out at work all day and it’s far too easy for me to think how great it would be to just be at home with my son on maternity leave…but I’m sure that Anna could very easily feel similarly about me, the guy who abandons her every morning and just relaxes with no screaming baby and surroundings that aren’t our flat!

I’ve just quit my job to take a new one, and I’ve had to be careful not to leave just because IF [I get a new job] THEN [I’ll be happier at work]! Thankfully, the Bible has some useful guidance on what our attitude should be:

Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:11-13)

It’s right to be discontent with injustice, but are you content with the grass on your side of the fence? Or do you find it too easy to slip into the IF-THEN mentality?

Let’s commit together to take our eyes off our circumstances and fix them on Jesus.