The subtitle for this book is ‘Giving the gift of unconditional love and acceptance’, and it basically outlines a strategy for improving family relationships, quality and length of life through doing just that, enacting ‘The Blessing’. The book contains four parts, answering (1) why the blessing is important, (2) the steps the blessing is made up of, (3) what happens if you don’t get the blessing, and (4) practical guidance for putting it into practice.
It’s pretty convincing. Looking at people’s lives where they haven’t received the blessing consistently leads to broken marriages, ill health and unhappy people, whereas the benefits are innumerable. The blessing is a simultaneous, ongoing five-step process made up of meaningful, appropriate touch, words of affirmation, attaching high value to people, picturing a special future, and making an active and practical commitment. So nice and simple, and relatively easy to memorise and put into practice.
It’s easy to read. The stories come across as genuine, both those from the authors’ own lives and those where they talk about others, and the book as a whole is laid out in a logical way. It’s also clearly influenced by the Bible and refers to specific passages with good effect.
But I have to say I’m not sold out on it. The concept is fine, but this book probably isn’t going to land on my ‘read it again’ pile. For a start, the real content is really in those five steps I outlined above, so to be honest there’s not much more real ‘stuff’ in the book than there is in this blog post. Secondly, I felt the book leaned a little too heavily on people’s stories rather than on practical examples of how the reader can put it into practice. Finally, in this revised and updated version there are multiple links to the blessing website and pauses for thought, which are fine in themselves but felt a bit wedged in at times – I’m not convinced they add that much.
That all said, I’d be very happy to recommend this book to anyone who wanted to improve a relationship (whether good or bad), or who had suffered through not having received the blessing themselves. On a personal level I didn’t find it as useful as others perhaps could have, but I definitely wouldn’t use that as an excuse to tell others not to benefit from it.
I got this book for free from BookSneeze.com. I’m not required to give a positive review.